Wednesday, 25 March 2015

FAQ: How to phrase questions

Today, I wanted to address another question people often ask: how best to phrase a question to get a useful answer from a Lenormand reading.

Part of the answer is, it depends on what spread you plan to use.  If you are asking about a complex situation involving a lot of people, it may be best to use a Grand Tableau.  In that case, the exact phrasing of your question matters a bit less, and simply thinking about the situation is sufficient, as the cards will be able to look at lots of different aspects and people involved.

If you are looking for something quicker and simpler, though, phrasing becomes more relevant. 

Personally, I prefer to avoid questions that focus more on other people, or which imply that I have no agency in a matter.  While some things are unavoidable, and while we cannot control everything (or everyone), I choose to focus on what I can change or influence.  So, a general rule of thumb for me is to avoid "shoulds" and third-party focused questions. 

With that in mind, I tend to stick to empowering and clear questions, such as: what do I most need to know about this situation, what action will most help me?

Another thing to avoid is questions that are too convoluted or unclear.  As the saying goes, Keep It Simple, Sista'! 

For example, if you draw just one set of cards asking should I date person A or person B, how will you tell for sure which one is being indicated?  There might be a clear answer (if one card specifically calls to mind one person), but there might not.  Better to avoid the possibility of confusion before you start!

My suggestion would be to either use a spread specifically designed to help you choose (like the Choices spread in the Celtic Lenormand companion book, shown here), or else draw cards for each option.  With the choices spread, you can draw as many cards for each option as you like, though I wouldn't go above five.  I also find it helpful to draw cards for the wisdom you could use in making this decision, and also for a deciding factor, if two options both look good. 

Another route is to simply draw cards for each option, in whichever format you feel comfortable with (a line or a nine square, for instance).  Whatever you choose, make sure you have your question and your options clear before you start drawing cards.

Next week, I'll look at the topic of yes-no questions...

4 comments:

  1. Is it true that when you draw two or three card for each position you can use any tarot spread you like for you Lennies?

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    1. Yes, you can certainly do that, Ellen! You can also try just pulling one card for each position, and even then you'll get an interesting reading. Even better, with something like the Celtic Cross, you can read the cards individually. And, you can see the "row" of the cross as past present future, and read that as you would a Lennie line of three. Equally, the "column" of the cross gives you mental processes connected to the situation. And the four "uprights" can be read in pairs for the situation and the outcome :)

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  2. Interesting, and quite helpful, as always. :)

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    1. Thanks, Bridgett. It was something people had asked me, so I thought I'd give my two cents :) What is your approach?

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